Saying No Is Hard To Do

I am like most people (especially women) I know. I have a hard time saying “no” to people, to requests…to just about anything. I am not sure why I am like this. It might be guilt or me being afraid of not being liked…I am really not sure. What I am sure of, though, is that I said “no” more often. One recent time when I didn’t say no but I SO wished I did was when I volunteered to take part in helping on a committee for a charity and I really just didn’t have the time to do it. I wanted to do it and believed in the work of the charity but I didn’t have time to do it. Instead of saying no, I said okay and then was stressed and mad at myself for committing to it. Honestly, something that should have been enjoyable was downright miserable because I had too much on my plate. Nothing was getting done well and I found myself just resenting the fact I didn’t know how to just say something like, “I wish I could commit to that now but I have too much on my plate. Can we talk in a few months and I should be able to help out with what you need then.” Lesson learned and I hope I remember this next time I am about to say yes when I should be saying no!